You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if you're starting with little or no confidence? How do you get from Point A to Point B?
Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious circle: A lack of confidence can have a serious negative effect on your career. It’s hard to convince others of your ability when you feel like a bag of nerves inside! After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that's being pitched by someone who was nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. Thus people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.Self-confident people inspire confidence in others: their audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success. The good news is that self-confidence can actually be learned and built on. And, whether you’re working on your own self-confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!
Now building confidence takes time and effort but it’s worth it for the huge difference it will make to your life. There are three stages to building self-confidence: First, you need to take stock of where you are and think carefully of where you want to go. Start by taking a look at your top achievements so far. This will help you enjoy the success you’ve already had.In this preparation stage, it also helps to set out some targets or goals to clarify what you want from your life and career. Your goals should be both short-term and long-term and you should be able to measure them to get a real sense of what you have achieved.
The last part of the preparation stage is to get yourself into the right mindset. You need to be aware of any negative thoughts that might destroy your confidence and nick them in the bud. Make a clear promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to this journey to self-confidence. Vow to do everything in your power to get there.
The second stage is about setting out on that journey. Take small steps to achieve your goals. For example, if you need to learn some new skills, take a class. Just focus on doing simple things well.
In the third stage, you can begin to see the process working. You will be able to feel your self-confidence build as you achieve your small goals one by one. In time, you will be able to stretch yourself. Make your goals a little bit bigger and your challenges a little tougher. The more you achieve, the more confident you feel. Throughout this whole process, it’s important to stay grounded in reality.
Self- confidence is a great asset but over-confidence can be just as destructive as no confidence at all. So make sure you get the balance right! Follow and implement the suggestions in this blog post, and your self–confidence should skyrocket.